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Beyond Counting Days

In the journey to recovery from substance abuse issues, counting days abstinent is a familiar concept. It's often seen as a symbol of progress and a way to measure one's commitment to sobriety. However, at Reset My Future, we believe it's essential to challenge conventional wisdom and explore new perspectives. In this blog post, we delve into the idea that while counting days abstinent can be beneficial, it can also become counter-productive over time. Our founder, Graeme Alford, shares his insights on why we should look beyond this traditional marker and focus on the bigger picture of recovery.

The Beginning of the Journey:

When someone first embarks on the path to recovery, counting days abstinent can be a powerful motivator. It provides a tangible way to track progress and offers a sense of accomplishment with each passing day. For many, this counting becomes a source of pride, a reminder of their commitment to change, and a testament to their willpower.

The Pitfalls of Counting Days In Recovery:

While counting days abstinent can be a valuable tool in early recovery, it has its limitations. Over time, it can inadvertently lead to some counter-productive consequences:

  1. Pressure and Stress: As the days add up, individuals may start feeling increasing pressure to maintain their streak. This can lead to anxiety and stress, which are counterproductive to the recovery process.

  2. Loss of Focus: Obsessing over the number of days abstinent can shift the focus away from the real goals of recovery: personal growth, healing, and building a fulfilling life without substance abuse.

  3. Risk of Relapse Guilt: If a person experiences a relapse after a significant period of abstinence, the guilt and shame associated with "losing" their days can be overwhelming and discouraging. This guilt can sometimes even trigger a cycle of relapse.

  4. Comparison: Comparing one's days abstinent to others can lead to unhealthy competition and unrealistic expectations. Each person's recovery journey is unique, and progress should be measured individually.

Graeme Alford's Perspective:

Our founder, Graeme Alford, suggests that it's time to shift our perspective. Instead of fixating on the number of days abstinent, he encourages individuals to embrace a more holistic approach to recovery:

  1. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: Recovery is a process, and setbacks can happen. Instead of viewing relapses as failures, see them as opportunities to learn and grow. Progress is not always linear.

  2. Set Meaningful Goals: Rather than counting days, set personal, meaningful goals for your recovery journey. These goals can be related to physical health, mental well-being, or personal achievements.

  3. Celebrate Milestones Beyond Abstinence: Recognise and celebrate achievements that go beyond sobriety. These could include mending relationships, finding new hobbies, or pursuing education and career aspirations.

  4. Seek Support: Recovery is not a solitary endeavour. Connect with others who understand your journey, whether through support groups, therapy, or online communities.

Counting days abstinent can be a valuable tool in the early stages of recovery, but it's important not to become fixated on this measure. Graeme Alford's perspective at Reset My Future encourages individuals to view recovery as a transformative journey, focusing on personal growth and well-being rather than just abstinence. By shifting our perspective, we can move beyond counting days and embrace a more fulfilling and sustainable path to recovery.

If you would like to talk to us about starting your recovery journey or need help with someone close to you, please feel free to book a free consultation.



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