If you're at a point in your drinking where you understand you need to make changes, the thought of never drinking again can feel overwhelming. The question is a tough one, but you must be brutally honest with yourself.
First, Ask Yourself Why
Before you can even begin to answer this question, you should first know why you are asking.
For many people reaching this point, the thought of never drinking again can trigger an internal battle with the part of you that wants to cling to your regular drinking habits.
Others might just want to know if they are destined to remain alcoholics or if they can quit for a while and return to drinking, but with a healthier relationship with alcohol.
There are a few things to understand before you can answer this question honestly, namely:
What does it mean to be an alcoholic
What experts say about returning to drinking
The risks of a relapse
What is An Alcoholic?
“Alcoholic” is a term that refers to someone struggling with Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD). You will be hard-pressed to find a health professional who still uses the term "alcoholic," but both are referring to the same condition.
Symptoms of AUD include an inability to stop or control alcohol use despite its harmful social, work, and health consequences. In simple terms, if you find it hard to control your drinking even in the face of its adverse effects, you may have AUD.
If you aren't sure about your relationship with alcohol, consider an assessment with an experienced professional who can help you figure out if you have a problem.
Abstinence or Moderation
For many people facing an AUD diagnosis, the only path to recovery is through abstinence. Why is it like this? Attempting to moderate your drinking can put you at significant risk of relapse or a return to your harmful drinking habits.
For example, suppose you quit drinking and decide to test the waters after a few months of abstinence. At first, you may successfully limit yourself to one or two drinks. However, you may not be as good at resisting next time and could find yourself slipping into old habits.
Some support moderation, believing that complete abstinence is unrealistic for some and not necessary. Programs designed around moderation often treat the emotional issues or triggers behind drinking, usually through cognitive behavioural therapy.
However, proponents of abstinence will also recommend treating your underlying triggers. Before deciding on abstinence or moderation, consider the following:
The severity of AUD: Someone with a more severe alcohol dependence could find moderation challenging and may be better off with abstinence.
Triggers and cravings: If triggers and cravings are an issue, moderation may not be your safest option.
Support systems: A strong support network of friends, family, and professional help can significantly impact your success with moderation, but is also recommended when choosing abstinence.
In short, if you have a physical dependence on alcohol or your drinking is causing severe health, social, and relationship issues, then abstinence is your best option. If none of these apply to you, then learning moderation is a possibility.
You Are Not Alone
If you're struggling with your relationship with alcohol, know that you don't have to go it alone. At Reset My Future, we offer personalised support and guidance to help you explore your options and make informed decisions about your recovery.
Are you ready to take the next step? Contact us for a free consultation. Your journey to a healthier, alcohol-free life starts today.
